I have been kind of guarded sharing much recently. I had the first trimester triple screening on my 12 weeks and last week my OB called and told me that we have a 1% chance of having a baby with Try.somy 18. I didn't know how to react to such news. I know it is only a 1% chance but it is still a possibility.
The OB suggested that we go for an Amnio test. Prior to this news DH and I have talked about this that even if there is a chance that there is something wrong with the baby that we will not of course make a decision to end it so why bother doing the amnio test and risk miscarriage. My OB of course scared the hell out of me. Most babies with Try.somy 18 either are stillborn or die within a few days after birth. So of course his first advice is to go for Amnio and if positive to have an abortion.
I struggled for a week with the news before I called the specialist my OB referred. The first thing they will do is have a consultation and do an ultrasound. The ultrasound should be able to show physical abnormalities caused by Try.somy 18 but it is not conclusive. Before making a decision I am going to wait until I have the ultrasound. If the ultrasound shows some abnormalities the only benefit to doing the amnio is to verify the result and we will be better prepared to handle it.
I had decided that I would tell my boss at 13/14 weeks but now I am having second thoughts. I ware scarves to hide my small bump but I have seen a few people looking and wondering.
Morning nausea is picking up, I thought it would gradually go away by second trimester but I have thrown up a few times in the morning this week but it usually goes away after breakfast.
The ultrasound appointment is not until 2nd week of April and the wait is killing me. For now I am going to assume that I am caring a healthy baby. It is so hard to enjoy the pregnancy with such news hangs over my head. Please pray that all is good. Thanks.
Oh sweet friend, I completely understand your worries. I am going to mass in an hour and will be sure to pray for you. Hang in there. The fact that you are pregnant is HUGE and God will take care of the rest for you:)
ReplyDeleteThat's still 99% chance that the baby doesn't have it! I know that it'w worrisome, regardless, though...
ReplyDeleteI hope you get some clarification at your next u/s!
Oh I can't even imagine! *hugs* I hope the next ultrasound will give you good news and peace of mind. 1% chance isn't that much ... but it still feels like the world to know it's a possibility. Be strong and only do what YOU feel is best for you. The doctors really don't know as much as they pretend. Take it to God, about this and about the big testing, let Him guide you safely through this. I will be praying for you and baby.
ReplyDeleteAs far as telling the boss... that's tough. You definitely don't want it to become obvious before you've said anything to them. You could still tell when you planned, but just add in that you're having complications and don't want it to become common knowledge until you're past the scary parts... or you could wait and if he finds out on his own and is pissed, you could just tell him that you didn't say anything because of the complications... Hmmm. Good luck with deciding all of that too.